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After almost getting in an argument with someone in the polyamory community about what the difference is between "being an individual" and "being monogamous/nonmonogamous" I have come up with a new term for us rather than multiple or plural.

I think we're polypersonous.

The rant I wanted to post was that after spending the last 3.5 years of my life trying to arrange one body and 24 hrs/day into some semblance of a decent life for about 20 people (more or less) I think I know a little something about space for being an individual. Anyone who cedes their individuality to someone else is making a choice. Look at Lynn; she managed to carve out an identity for herself that goes so far beyond what I consider "me" it isn't even funny. And yet technically, if we could share all our memories at once, we'd've had the same life.

And someone wants to pin that process of human development on whether you're married or not? AUGH. Who you're dating/fucking/marrying is such a very small piece of that.

But then, this is always the issue with sexual politics. Or... polypersonous politics. :)

Shandra
(x-posted this one to my d-x)

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Date: 2004-02-02 01:16 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] iscari0t.livejournal.com
Anyone who cedes their individuality to someone else is making a choice.

thank you.

this is the main reason i have no opposition to being in a "monogamous" relationship, and have some disagreements with people who claim that they will not do so out of reasons of not ceeding their individuality; someone else cannot "take" your individuality away; only you can give it, and this has nothing to do with the "status" or "title" of your relationship.

-speccial-

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Date: 2007-06-22 10:21 am (UTC)
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